GRIEF …

By Shirley Carolan, ATMG

Grief is so personal and yet a necessary part of the human condition. I’m sure it’s there to teach us to live, laugh and enjoy each day to the fullest that we have on this beautiful planet … to focus on the NOW instead of spending time and energy focusing on our loss... Without grief, we probably would not appreciate all the other wonderful things happening around and in us. Even animals are not immune to loss and suffering …

Yes, the opposite of grief is joy. But I am not there yet! Somehow, I still mourn the loss of my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, on May 25, 2011. I blame myself for what happened to her even though I am aware that will not bring her back, or, change what happened. I don’t feel that I’m on the pitty-pot, but rather expressing my loss in the only way I know how. How long will it take me to get over her? Perhaps never … but I’m sure over time the pain will lessen and I will understand or see what lesson I can learn from the tragedy. Therein lies my liberation.

What happened in Oslo this weekend, and the incredible loss of human life is inconceivable. I can’t get my mind around it. The loss and grief families, friends, teachers, leaders, neighbors, etc. must be experiencing is mind blowing. How they mourn, and try to rebuild their lives is entirely up to them and my heart goes out to them.

Also, the tragic loss of Amy Winehouse, at such a young age, in London leaves thousands mourning and asking WHY? Why did this happen?

We may never know the full answers to any of the above, but it’s important to acknowledge those we loved and be grateful they were an important part of our life. We are the person we are today because they touched our lives in some meaningful way!

Perhaps if I had Krissy in my life today I would not have my little cocker/poodle, Teddy and he might still be living in that animal shelter. He is truly a joy to have and be around and brings new meaning to my life. He is totally unaware of my loss and that’s OK! I continue to miss Krissy but am grateful for all the wonderful things she brought into my life… especially unconditional love!


Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
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